Please Go Through The Previous Post to have a clearer picture of what I mean by today's post.



Another point which i have noticed is we all have some preconceptions about love or relationships entirely based on unrealistic movies, novels, stories etc , etc. Ruled by  such rosy fantasies we start looking for some perfect soul mate. I find it so ridiculous that even grown ups believe in fairy tales, rather i must say they just don't want to come to the real world. Here I need to remind you that I am not some Gurumaa who is not the victim of such illusions. I am no where near any illumined soul. I am just like any other wife, mother,daughter or sister who also has preconceptions and unreal standards to achieve. But then I confess and try to adopt realistic approach towards this issue. Except for God no one is perfect in this world.
Try not to let these negative aspects get in your way. Be receptive to each other. Learn to appreciate small small positve gestures or qualities in each other. This negative thought process can undermine your relationship. Mostly, you find or see what u actually want to see.  We keep talking of commitment towards each other. But how many of us really know our duties n abide by them. How truthful we are towards each other  It is always the MUTUAL interaction and if you are completely frank, sincere, honest with each other then you are half way through to your mission of lasting love otherwise there is meak possiblity of sustaining that relationship.
If your are not true to yourself then you are likely to jump the gun  and wonder if she or he is genuine. These negative aspects which i have mentioned in the beginning prevents you from participating wholeheartedly in enjoying the relationship in the present. It holds you back from experiencing the enjoyment of being in love, being in total surrender to each other. Sometimes it totally kills your willingness to be part of it, albeit gradually.


If with a little extra effort you could work on the  points mentioned in the previous post you have a possibility of sustaining your love or getting your true soul mate love who could really take u to great heights in material and spiritual sense. One who would be able to help you create your real value and your real growth as a person.